Digital Parenting Dilemma: ‘Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child’ Debate Sparks Mixed Reactions
By Ms. Teresia Muia
A heated debate erupted among parents of Gen Z and Gen Alpha children over the motion “Spare the rod, spoil the child.” The discussion, which drew mixed reactions, saw some arguing that corporal punishment is an outdated disciplinary method, while others defended it as a necessary tool for shaping children’s behavior, citing Biblical teachings.
The debate took place during a two-day Positive Parenting Workshop held on March 12–13, 2025, at St. Joseph’s Secondary School, Kangemi Nairobi. Facilitated by the Loyola Centre for Media and Communications (LCMC), the training focused on the complexities of modern parenting, the challenges of digital-age child-rearing, and alternative discipline methods.
One of the most contentious discussions centered on alternative discipline techniques. Some parents admitted that raising children in today’s fast-paced, economically challenging environment makes it difficult to manage emotions effectively. “At times, we are too overwhelmed to stay in control. If you resort to beating, you might end up harming the child instead of correcting them. It’s better to explore other disciplinary approaches,” said Gladys, one of the participants.
However, others argued that abandoning the rod entirely could be dangerous, especially in the digital age, where children are exposed to complex influences at an early age. “Our children get exposed way too early and talking to them might not even work, at times we are compelled to inflict some pain to control them,” said another parent who supported the motion.
As the debate continued, it became clear that parenting in the digital era is vastly different from traditional approaches. The discussion highlighted the need for love, care, and a strong parent-child relationship in navigating modern challenges. Summing up the discussion, Rev. Fr. Dr. Odomaro Mubangizi, SJ, the workshop’s key facilitator, emphasized: “The ultimate goal is for parents to support the children to form healthy identities in a highly dynamic world.”
